This is similar to the bowline on the bight. However, as far as I know, that knot cannot be tied around a post.
I agree with X1 - trying to get two fixed loops of exactly the same size is at best difficult.
I concur in X1's judgement (and Roo's uncertainty) that the
two expressed goals are at odds with each other. I'll go further
and say that distribution of forces is unlikely to occur by any
slippage of cordage, which has too much friction to be much
at all equitable --it can slip, but not to the point of near equalizing!
And, if one is tying multiple loops (eyes) around a pole,
how are they to then be independently used?
So, some further insight into your needs will be appreciated.
However the bowline on the bight can easily be tied around a post
if you really want to use it.
Indeed, it is argued to be one of the better ways for
rockclimbers to tie into the climbing rope --though, to my
mind, it's not optimal in that (i.e., there should be another
way to finish the knot, given one twin part being destined
as the tail).
Personally I would look at the tensionless hitch as an easy means
of distributing the strain

I fail to see how this at all distributes strain:
100% tension comes into contact with the object
via the SPart which is a single strand (in contrast,
say, to the two legs of an eye knot),
and the extent of wrapping of that strand provides
more material to extend/stretch under load, so more
frictional rubbing (etching!) against the object.
(There seems to be this common misconception of the
t.h. .)
--dl*
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